Frequently Asked Questions
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A death doula (or end-of-life doula) is a person who provides non-medical practical, emotional, and informational support to someone who is dying, as well as to their family or caregivers.
They may help with things like:
Talking through wishes, fears, and priorities around dying.
Helping someone plan how they want their final days to feel or be structured.
Providing companionship and a calm presence.
Helping family members understand what to expect during the dying process.
Coordinating practical matters, such as creating a vigil plan, legacy projects, or documenting final wishes.
Sitting with a dying person so caregivers can rest.
Supporting loved ones before and shortly after the death.
A doula is not a doctor, nurse, therapist, or hospice provider. We don't administer medication, diagnose conditions, or provide medical treatment. Instead, we can work alongside hospice and palliative-care teams, filling some of the emotional and practical gaps that medical care doesn't cover.
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Before the end of life:
Helps a person talk about their wishes, fears, values, and priorities.
Helps families prepare emotionally and practically for what is ahead.
Assists with advance-care planning and organizing important information.
Helps create a personalized end-of-life or vigil plan.
Supports legacy projects such as letters, recordings, photographs, or family stories.
During the dying process:
Provides companionship and a calm, reassuring presence.
Sits with the person so they don't have to be alone.
Helps family members understand common changes that occur as someone is dying.
Provides respite for family caregivers.
Helps create a peaceful environment that reflects the person's preferences.
Offers emotional or spiritual support according to the person's beliefs and wishes.
After death:
Supports family members immediately following the death.
Helps with practical next steps and resources.
Provides space for grief and reflection.
May assist with memorial or legacy projects.
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Hospice is a healthcare service, while a death doulas provides non-medical personal support. We can work together rather than being alternatives; I’ve worked in tandem with hospice care for several years.
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There is no “right” time to reach out. You can connect with a death doula after a serious diagnosis, when you're beginning to plan, when caregiving feels overwhelming, or when death is approaching.
We’re here to provide compassionate presence, helping you and your loved ones feel more prepared, supported, and less alone throughout the journey.
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Yes, virtual sessions are an option.
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Yes. I can help you explore your wishes, have meaningful conversations with loved ones, organize important details, and create a plan that reflects what matters most to you.
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Generally speaking, I charge $150 per hour to work together. Sliding scale payment and packages are available, depending upon your needs.
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Your first conversation is simply an opportunity to connect, ask questions, and share what you're going through. There is no pressure or expectation to have everything figured out.
I’ll listen, learn what matters most to you and your family, and explain how I can provide support. Together, we’ll decide if we’re a good fit and take things one step at a time.
Still have questions?
Every end-of-life experience is different. If you're wondering whether this kind of support might be helpful for you or someone you love, you're welcome to schedule a conversation.
